Your child has already started making his money, but has not yet left the parental nest (your apartment). Should he contribute to the household — for example, buying groceries and paying utility bills?
While one mother only fills the refrigerator with food for her 30-year-old working son (after all, “taking money from a child is the last thing!”), The other boasts what kind of dishes for the family table she bought for her first money.
Should the child or should not participate in the household expenses of the parental home? To decide only you.
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If in doubt, we suggest finding out the opinions of our experts: a psychologist, the rector of the Orthodox Christian Institute, and a bank employee.
Oleg Ivanov, psychologist, conflictologist, head of the Center for Social Conflict Settlement comments
As a rule, every family solves financial issues independently. In many ways, everything depends on the specific situation, on the traditions of upbringing, as well as on the welfare of the family. Although, of course, this is not about money at all, but about how to teach your child financial literacy.
If your child is still in school or high school, and earns money only during extra-curricular time, then, in my opinion, it’s too early to expect from him any participation in replenishing the family budget. I am sure that he had his own reasons to go to work, for example, in order not to ask parents for money for the cinema.However, if your son or daughter has already graduated from high school, got a permanent job, they may well contribute to the family budget.
I see nothing wrong with that.
As long as the children live together with their parents, they may well take upon themselves the payment of utilities, sometimes buying food at all, and so on.
Or give monthly a certain amount “on the farm.”
Parents sometimes oppose children, even adults, in any way participating in the family budget. This view is also fully justified. Since so the child does not ask for money for their needs, independently manage the money, buys clothes and so on. Including, if necessary, can help parents with money. Or rather, save up to rent an apartment and move away from their parents.
In general, situations are different and each family itself determines how best to resolve this issue.The main thing, in my opinion, is to educate your child responsible and independent, to teach him to manage the money and motivate him to earn it.
Let him first have to work as a courier or promoter. To avoid a situation where an unemployed 30-year-old son sits on his parents’ neck. Which, unfortunately, is not uncommon.
Georgy Kochetkov, priest, rector of St. Philaret Orthodox Christian Institute comments
If a person lives with his parents under the same roof, then it is normal to invest in the general life not only of mental and physical labor, but also financially.
This can be expressed not only in buying something in a common refrigerator, but also, let’s say, taking at least a partial payment for one’s education in a higher educational institution.It has always been this way – children participated from the earliest years and in the general work and in the general care for each other.
A person, when he takes responsibility for his relatives and neighbors, only then becomes himself, a personality in the full sense of the word, those who learn, find and fulfill their calling.
In the Gospel it is said about “loyalty in the small” – if in the small, even in part of his earnings, a person is faithful to his relatives, then he is given that “more” that we call love for our neighbor.
Love, in order to grow stronger, must be love not only taking, but giving. Without the capacity for such love, a person can hardly become a person.